Finding
Our Altruism

By Catherine Ryan Hyde


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The Pay It Forward Economy

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Experiments with new models of value exchange are often dismissed as quirky. Think: Ithaca hours, a timebanking initiative in which an hour of your time functions as a new form of currency. Or Panera’s Pay-what-you-want turkey chili, an offering that the company had to end up suspending in 2013. But new decision science research suggests that we might finally be zeroing in on the alternative economy models that will be more deeply transformative; call it a Pay-It-Forward Currency. 

Enough said!

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A Kindness Hack

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Using science to make people Kind and consequently the world a better place is my thing, and when I ran across this piece in the Atlantic I was very intrigued at the possibilities. I like to approach Kindness as a tool to empower us and I love finding little tricks that I can use to further my knowledge and goals:

Infusions of nature don’t merely calm the mind, they alter our attitudes, making us more trusting and generous toward other people.

Read this article carefully, as it is very critical at times. I try very hard myself, to focus on the positive and stay away from the negative. Perhaps as a survival mechanism. So if you dive deep into this, there are some interesting tricks and hacks that might be useful not only to yourself, but everyone around you!

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Finding Our Altruism
(as Opposed to Never Losing It)

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In the mid-1990s, when I first wrote the novel Pay It Forward—the adult version on which the movie was based—I was laboring under a misperception about humans. I thought that as we grow up, we lose our altruism. And by lose I mean irreparably lose. I thought we started out youthful, glowing, and filled with kindness and goodness. Then, somewhere between kindergarten and high school, all that good stuff was quite thoroughly stomped or kicked out of us.

That’s why I made Trevor, the character who changes the world through simple acts of kindness, twelve years old. I thought this was something a grownup couldn’t—or at least wouldn’t—do. I thought grownups would come up with an idea like Pay It Forward, and then sit down with a pen and a legal tablet and list all the reasons why it would never work. Then, having talked themselves out of even trying, they would be relieved of the burden of changing the world. I could imagine the happy sighs of adult relief.

I was wrong.

I quickly learned that I was wrong by watching altruism wake up in grownups when they read the book or saw the movie. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to take credit for anyone else’s altruism. And I’m not suggesting that lots of other factors aren’t at work inspiring people at the same time. But one conclusion is inescapable: You can’t awaken what’s irreparably gone. You can only awaken that which is merely sleeping.

Now I have a different theory about losing our altruism as we grow. I still  think we often lose it. But more the way we lose our car keys.

I’m not a psychologist, a scientist, or a researcher of any kind. I’m just a fiction author who’s been alive for a while and has spent much of that time observing human nature.

Here’s what I’ve seen.

As we grow, we want to fit in. We want to be loved and accepted. We want to avoid criticism. We want to learn about the world, so we can more safely make our way in it. So we look to those around us for signals.

Parents and teachers may not realize the subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) messages they send regarding the world. Sometimes we feel overpowered and overwhelmed, unable to change the things that trouble us. We may not want to say—or even think—that we just don’t have the energy to try. So instead we pass a message on to kids: “That’s just the way the world is.” Kids are like sponges for knowledge of the world. It’s their job to soak it up. Tell them you can’t change anything, and they’ll not only believe you, they’ll prove you right.

How much of the world as we know it is a mass act of self-fulfilling prophecy?

At a certain age (in my own experience it was around middle school) we notice that the people around us are getting more… for lack of a better word… cool. We may have a spontaneous thought related to changing a situation through kindness, but by that age we’ve become careful about filtering what we say. We look at those around us, and they don’t seem to champion kindness. They don’t seem to think kindness is cool. We don’t stop being kind, in my opinion. We stop openly expressing it. We bury it down where no one can see. After a few years of that, it becomes the proverbial ring of car keys. We haven’t seen it for a while, and often wouldn’t quite know where to locate it if we tried.

But this is great news, in my opinion. We still have everything we need. We just have to do a little finding. And we have to get braver about saying the things we know are right. Even if the people around us aren’t saying the same.

My thoughts on social courage have evolved quite a bit lately. I used to think people should just push their way through fear and speak their minds, placing far less importance on any resulting criticism. I’m still not against that plan. But I think I was not taking into account how deep-seated these fears can be. The fear of being ostracized is a very primal thing. Again, I’m no expert, but it seems to trace back to that ancient tribal societal structure: To be forced out of the group is to die. That’s a big one. So maybe I was being dismissive to suggest people just buck up and speak. Maybe a better answer is to create safer spaces for people to speak. Surround them with the safety of knowing they are an accepted part of their society even when expressing new ideas.

Like radical kindness.

Which leads me to the upcoming book release that I hope might make a difference.

I am pleased—thrilled, actually—to announce that fourteen years after the publication of my novel Pay It Forward, Simon & Schuster will soon (August 19, 2014) release Pay It Forward: Young Readers’ Edition, edited for middle grade students.

One of my very few regrets in my career involved the age-appropriate “rating” of the original book. I wrote exclusively for adults at the time. I never imagined anyone but adults reading it. So it contains a fair amount of adult language and material. The American Library Association included it on its “Best Books for Young Adults” list in 2001, a stamp of approval for students 12-18. But parent sensitivity being what it is, most teachers won’t use it in the classroom unless students are at least 14 or 15. Which, let’s face it, is past the age when we’ve misplaced those altruistic car keys.

What if a book like this new Pay It Forward edition made its way into middle school curriculum just about everywhere? What if students were reading it and talking about it at that crucial age, the one during which the push is on to be “cool”? It might create a safer space for altruism. Students might be more comfortable expressing their feelings about kindness. They would have more support for altruistic thinking and actions.

Instead of having to relocate their altruism as adults, what if the next generations never had to put it in hiding in the first place?

What would happen when that generation moved into the workforce, the polling place, the government, the teaching professions? How much would their openly-displayed altruism change the world?

I don’t know, and I don’t know if anyone can accurately say they know. But we may be about to find out. And whatever happens, that can only be a good thing.

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Good Virus At The Catalyst Leadership Conference

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Watch David Gaz, director of Kindness Is Contagious speak about kindness and success at the Catalyst Leadership Conference. The title of his talk is “How incorporating kindness into your personal brand  can make you happier and more successful”.

If you would like to book David to speak about kindness and success at an event, email us HERE.

David Gaz, partner and creative director of the agency Ijhana, is a multi award-winning creative director, filmmaker and photographer. He has over 20 years of experience with major brands such as Levi’s, Sony, IBM, Xerox and Disney as well as world class museums and cultural centers such as Le Louvre, Le Musee d’Art Moderne, Le Centre Pompidou.

David’s work has been featured in Fast CompanyCommunication Arts (Including Cover), Graphis, Photo District News, The San Francisco Examiner Sunday Magazine, The Chicago Tribune Sunday Magazine as well as The Huffington PostNOTCOTMy Modern MetThe Film ReelTokyo Eye, and countless other blogs.

Fairness On Wall Street

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Fairness On Wall Street, sounds like an oxymoron doesn’t it? But I think it is representative of the pressure of the super organism  on the individual. Why we as a species triumphs over we as an individual. And this is at the core of why kindness matters. This NY Times Blog Post struck me as significant because it represents one of the intrinsic reason that everything resets itself in favor of kindness – the outrage we all have to things that are unfair (when the cards are stacked against us). And given that the cards are ALWAYS stacked against us, the system is continually resetting itself. Sometimes it takes years, sometimes it takes decades and sometimes even centuries, but the reassuring thing is, no matter what the circumstances, no matter how bad things are, the system is alway trying to reset itself to become fair.

Two things struck me as important, the one who spearheaded the creation of a “fair” exchange, Brad Katsuyama, was described as “RBC nice”. And that once they created a “fair” exchange the big brokerage firms had no choice but to use them on a massive scale.

Click HERE to read a story  of Wall Street deceit and treachery and its inevitable return to fairness.

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Social Networks and the Spread of Altruism

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Social networks and altruism are deeply inter-connected.  Each is required for the other.

In research that we have been conducting these past few years, we have explored how kind acts flow across social ties, and how social ties provide the substrate for inter-personal altruism.  If people never behaved altruistically towards one other, never reciprocated kind behavior, or, worse, were always violent towards one another, then social ties would dissolve and the social network around us would disintegrate.  Some degree of altruism and kindness, and indeed some degree of positive emotions such as love and happiness,[i] is therefore crucial for the emergence and endurance of social networks.  Moreover, once networks are established, altruistic acts – from random acts of kindness to a cascade of organ donation – can spread through them.

Charity is just one example of the goodness that can flow through networks.  About 89% of American households give to charity each year, and fundraising efforts often seem designed to capitalize on processes of social influence and notions of community embeddedness.  For example, bike-a-thons and walk-a-thons are organized both to engender a sense of community among participants and to encourage direct contact between participants and their friends and neighbors who sponsor them.  And organizations from hospitals to boy scout troops to small towns employ a kind of thermometer that is publicly displayed and that tracks charitable giving to their cause, implicitly saying: “look, all these other people gave money, now how about you?”  Indeed, surveys of people who have given money to diverse causes find that roughly 80% did so because they were asked to by someone they knew well.[ii]

In one demonstration of the spread of pro-social norms across such social connections, economist Katie Carman studied charitable giving to the United Way in 75,000 employees in a large American employer.  She found that employees gave more when they worked next to generous colleagues.  Cleverly, Carman studied what happened to employees’ giving if they were obliged to move from one location in the bank to another, and she found that when people were transferred from a location where others did not give much money to a location where they did, every $1.00 increase in the average giving of their nearby co-workers resulted in a $0.53 increase in their own contribution.[iii]  There are several possible mechanisms for this type of effect: others around us can provide information about how to give, can pressure the other to give, or can simply act as a role model for giving.

In our labs, we have done a number of experiments exploring the contagion of altruistic behavior through social networks more broadly, creating artificial social networks involving real people.[iv]  We know that if Jay is generous to Harla, Harla will be generous to Jay, in a kind of reciprocal altruism.  But what about “pay-it-forward” as in the Goodvirus project?  What if Jay is generous to Harla, will she be generous to Lucas?  We devised an experiment to evaluate this idea that altruism could spread from person to person to person.  We involved 120 college students in a set of games that lasted five rounds.  In each round, students were placed in groups of four, and we mixed the composition of the groups so that no two people were ever placed in the same group twice.  People could decide how much money to give to the group at a personal cost, and then we let them know at the end of each round what other people did.  When we analyzed their behavior, we found that altruism tends to spread and also that the benefits tend to be magnified.  When one person gives an extra dollar in the first round, the people in her group each tend to give about 20 cents more in the second round, even though those people have been placed in completely new and different groups, with different people!  When a person has been treated well by someone, she goes on to treat others well in the future.  And, even more amazingly, all the people in these new groups from the second round are also affected in the third round, each giving about five cents more for every extra dollar that the initial person in the first round spent.  Overall, we found that the social network acted like a matching grant, doubling the downstream benefits of what each person initially chose to give.

Whether people behave altruistically is also determined by the structure of the social network in which they are embedded.  One ingenious experiment documented a “law of giving” at an all-girls school in Pasadena, California.[v]  The investigators asked 76 fifth and sixth grade girls to identify up to five friends, which allowed them to draw the girls’ social network and ascertain which girls were each girl’s friends, friends of friends, friends of friends of friends, and so on.  They had the girls play a game in which each girl was asked how much she would share from a $6 amount with each of 10 other girls who were listed by name.  The girls were most generous with their friends and the amount given declined as social distance increased.  On average, the girls offered their friends 52% of the $6, friends of friends 36%, and friends of friends of friends 16%.  The best predictor of how much each girl gave was not any measured characteristic of either the givers or recipients – such as whether either girl was tall or short, had many or few siblings, or wore glasses or braces.  Instead, it was the degree of separation between the giver and the receiver.

Our studies of social networks over the years have convinced us that one of the deep purposes of social networks is to magnify whatever they are seeded with.  But they must be seeded.  And if we seed them with goodness, the network will take over, and foster a lot more of it.

Nicholas A. Christakis, MD, PhD
James H. Fowler, PhD
Co-Authors of Connected

Photo By Garrett Heath


[i] Coviello L, Sohn Y, Kramer ADI, Marlow C, Franceschetti M, et al. (2014) Detecting Emotional Contagion in Massive Social Networks. PLoS ONE 2014; 9: e90315. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0090315

[ii] Independent Sector, “Giving and Volunteering in the United States – 2001,” available at www.independentsector.org.

[iii] K. G. Carman, “Social Influences and the Private Provision of Public Goods: Evidence from Charitable Contributions in the Workplace.”  Stanford Institute for Economic Policy Research Discussion Paper 02-13, January 2003

[iv] J.H. Fowler and N.A. Christakis, Cooperative Behavior Cascades in Human Social Networks,” Proceedings of the National Academy of Science 2010; 107: 5334-5338.

[v] J. K. Goeree and others, “The 1/d Law of Giving,” http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~lyariv/Papers/Westridge.pdf (accessed March 4, 2009).